This is my first ever post as a way of giving back to the community and reporting what I've learned and found what works best. You can check your strengths and weaknesses and know what to improve/how to cater your game, an example is I need to be less of a douchebag and not fail every comfort test that goes my way. This is my first and potentially only post on the sub so hopefully it provides valuable insight despite it being obvious and whatnot

Never Shit Where You EatDefinition: Never sleep with a coworker/someone closely associated with your work. I believe girls in the same apartment are fine so long as you watch your back and stay safe, someone in one of your university classes too so long as you approach cautiously. Fellow gym members is a risk, only ever approach the ones that give you strong and plenty IOIs, don't approach the girls that don't. Ever. Basically don't sleep with someone you work often with/around or gym girls that focus on their own thing and don't want to be bothered

This one should be engraved into your mind. It's never worth it, don't fucking do it. It's strongly advised against for good reason. Mixing pleasure and business is not a good idea since she may cause drama or try and fuck you over on your job. Too many risks for the payoff to ever be worth it

Never Try HardDefinition of trying hard: Sexually escalating and trying it by moving too fast, attempting in short intervals and giving attention regularly. It's cool and all to be direct although if you just make it sex-based she won't cave. Trying hard at first is well paired up with getting yourself into a true "don't give a fuck" mood later on, they find that so so sexy, though it's very hard to get put into that mood. Only ever happened to me three times and no clue what caused it

From a post I read before and from what I've seen, girls love it when you look like you live your life with or without them and you can live with them not putting out for you. I've been on both ends with the same girl, where she told me she started losing interest since I was "trying too hard" to me then just genuinely not giving a fuck and it worked out perfectly for me. "Flow like water", don't let a woman be a dam you go out of your way to find and push over

Never Ever Be NeedyAnyone who's spent a minute on this sub knows this is one of the cornerstones of the sexual strategy aspect of RP. It's not fun for anyone and a complete turn off. Women desire a man who does his own thing and who countless other women desire and talk about. If you do get needy occupy yourself, you're a grown ass man you got shit to do instead of gazing at the stars wondering "What could have been" or picking flowers while muttering "She loves me, she loves me not". If any of you kill yourselves over a girl I will personally travel to the afterlife, pull your ass back into the realm of the living and knock some fucking sense into you. Oneitis is a debilitating condition that throws anyone off their game. You need to shut that shit down, even if it's a slight "she's not like other girls". This also has to do with my point on never settling. More on that later

Never Get JealousGirls always try and rattle up suspicion or jealousy/envy in a man to keep them on their dog leash. It's one of their stupid covert games, don't fall for it. You shouldn't ever care. In a high school class my (BP) friend told me "Man I just heard the girls talking about how they send pics of guys in our class to guys in their contacts list to make them jealous". I just laughed at him while they were around us and said "You have so much to learn". Ended up getting spammed by texts from a girl trying to get my attention which they noticed and started eyefucking me ever since. Poetic

Never Lose Your CoolFrame. Frame frame frame. Breathe frame, be frame, live frame. This is perhaps the most potent and powerful tool in your arsenal. If a guy wants to get into a fight, as Sun Tzu said, "The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.". Don't ever get mad at a girl or anyone, you look like a childish idiot and she dries up like the Sahara desert. Fun fact, every girl I know who's boyfriend did something along the lines of "She has a man now" broke up after a week max. It shows insecurity and women can gauge insecurity like sharks can smell blood in the water

Never Be Too Much of A DickI really wish I listened and reflected more when I read about comfort tests on here. You need to be able to identify and relate a girl's emotions to game her at your maximum potential. Sure some are going to go for you since you're a complete douchebag though those girls are the less sought after. Charm is the right amount of comedy, mystery, interest and teasing. Do too much of a god thing and it creates an imbalance, in this case teasing. You need to give her an emotional roller coaster of ups and downs, but do too many downs and the ride shuts down

Never Be An Emotional TamponGirls always have options no matter what for "nice" listeners. You can hear her out from time to time although set boundaries to know what you're about. If any of you have a hard time remaining distant think of it this way: if you won't be her emotional tampon someone else will. And she sure as fuck won't be banging the emotional tampon

Never Take Things PersonallyGirls are more scared of rejection than guys, it's why they rarely approach and none can game. It's one small meaningless interaction that could result in you knocking boots or a confidence boost exercise. If she bails, just understand what her nature is and it's not you, it's her. This is including and not limited to; flaking, playing games, shit testing. Not taking things personally also helps with the abundance mentality and DGAF attitude

Never Be Afraid of Taking RisksAlso great life advice for success. Similar to previous point however I know damn well I don't want to live with any regrets in life so I'll take the harmless risk of approaching and seeing how it goes. Best case scenario: Plate or whatever you're looking for Worse case scenario: Rejection. Despite this you still get out of your comfort zone, ergo improving nonetheless

Never Be InterrogativeWhat I mean by this is you don't want to ask questions such as "Want to meet up at this park at a time?" or "What's your favourite 11th century artpiece". Questions are fine and such but don't overdo it. However, you should never ever ask, you must always command (this does not include sex). Setting logistics especially. Standard of her "where are we eating" or "I'm free Friday" is you replying with "I know this great Chinese place. I'll pick you up at 8" or "Let's do a park walk at 6PM Friday" respectively. I found that using my ending cold approach line to "Let's exchange numbers, I'll take yours" works perfectly as it's friendly, a suggestion into a leading command and makes you look like you know what you're doing. I highly suggest implementing it if you have not already

Never Betray Your SensesIf you're seeing red flags galore or feel like you're in the house from Poltergeist, abandon ship. If you sense somethings off or you shouldn't push then don't. Trust your gut. You'll know the difference between butterflies in your stomach to "some kind of fuckery is going on here". This point also includes the voice inside your head like "Don't text her again man, it's only been a day". Last point is a good example of betraying your senses

Never Settle"When you settle you get what you settled for" -A guy who's name I forgot. You need to keep up your standards since mentality makes all the difference and once you start caving in to the occasional Miss McDonalds or Mrs. Human Potato Head since you've been having a "dry spell" then numerous problems will arise. Don't do it, only fuck who you believe you should be fucking (while also having major self confidence to uphold high standards). It's principles, it's self discipline and self control. It's right

Never Game, Let Alone Fuck a Bipolar GirlIf you want to open Pandora's box on your dick, be my guest. Just remember the phrase "Abandon all hope, ye who enter" when she's starting to flip shit and is a hair strand away from accusing you of abusing her

Symptoms to spot one are listed and not limited to; mood swings, threatening to chop your dick off, screaming and shouting, having the crazy eyes, maniacal laughter

With all that being said, the world is your oyster. Go get 'em Tiger. Good luck and enjoy

How often do you hear women tell you the following?

“I haven’t felt butterflies like that in years.”

“We shouldn’t be left in a room alone together.”

“Wow, how do you do that to me?”

Master the triggers for sexual attraction outlined in this article, and beautiful women you’ve just met will make the above statements regularly.

There are five elements to creating an irresistible sexual attraction: 1. Intent 2. Tension 3. Eye Contact 4. Mystery 5. Sexual conversation. Fortunately, there are simple, practical tricks you can learn that will allow you to master each of these elements with ease.

Intent can be such a murky concept. Although it might seem like you’ll have to fine-tune your chakras or meditate in a cave to master intent, it’s actually a concept grounded in human psychology. Put simply, intent is your expectation of what is going to happen in an interaction with a woman.

Intent is mostly expressed in feelings. Humans evolved mirror neurons that allow us to feel what people we interact with are feeling. This allowed people to avoid dangerous situations, if someone had a bad intent, they could feel that something was off, and so they would exercise caution in that interaction. Similarly, if you are nervous, a woman will be able to feel that, and she will assume that you must be nervous for a reason, your intent will make her lose interest in you. Conversely, if you feel confidently attracted to her, she’s much more likely to feel the same for you.

So, if you expect a girl to like you, she’s more likely to become attracted to you. How do you learn to project a strong intent? No, you don’t need to align your chakras or meditate in a cave. You can build your intent through a technique that psychologists use to treat anxiety, conscious reinterpretation.

Harvard scientists ran a study in which they caused participants to feel socially anxious by making them give a speech in front of an audience. The first group wasn’t given any special instructions, and unsurprisingly their levels of social anxiety were high and their performances suffered as a result. The second group was given a very simple exercise to practice. Whenever they felt nervous, they were to tell themselves, “I feel excited.” They were instructed to reinterpret anxiety as excitement. The audience scored the second group as performing significantly better, and participants in the second group also self-reported feeling more calm and confident.

How do you use this to change your intent? If you are nervous talking to a girl, you can do exactly what participants in the study were instructed to do, tell yourself, “I am excited.” Over time, as you practice this, your anxiety will turn into excitement, and she will feel this excitement off of you, and therefore feel more positively towards you.

But you can take this even further, when a girl makes you feel anxious, you could interpret that as nerves, but you could also interpret that as sexual attraction. In fact, the feelings people feel when they are nervous and when they are attracted to someone are almost identical: butterflies in the stomach, fast heartbeat, and even sweaty palms. If you feel that these symptoms are a bad thing, they will make you feel uncomfortable, if you feel that they are your body’s way of telling you that you should talk to someone, they will be positive. When you see a girl you like, and you feel the symptoms of attraction, tell yourself, “Damn, she’s attractive, I need to talk to her.”

One of the largest psychology studies of all time found that the most powerful trigger for attraction is the feeling of being genuinely liked by someone else. When you learn to accurately reinterpret anxiety towards a girl as attraction for her, you will allow yourself to feel more attracted to her, and as a result, she will feel more attracted to you. This is the power of a strong intent.

Negs, pushes, emotional spikes, are all techniques used to build sexual tension. Unfortunately, they are also the most misused techniques in the pickup community. I’ve floundered with these techniques many times myself, I would walk up to a girl I thought was particularly attractive, and I would start berating her with negs. I was overtly teasing her to raise my ‘perceived value’, and to make her feel a lack of validation. Suffice it to say, this didn’t build attraction, it just led to uncomfortable, and short, interactions.

Why? For any teasing technique to work, there’s an important nuance that must be understood. Before you tease, you and a woman must be in rapport for it to have a positive effect. If you and her aren’t on the same wavelength, aren’t vibing, than these techniques are meaningless.

However, if a girl is connecting with you, and then you strip her of validation, it will build a powerful sexual tension. To get her validation back, she will start to chase you. There are many lines you can use to make a girl chase you, for example, if she says she’s from California, you can say, “I hate California.” If you were already in rapport with her, this will feel invalidating, it will make her wonder if you really like her. This creates a psychological vacuum effect, to ease her discomfort, she will start to chase you and earn your validation back.

There are numerous effective techniques, the key is to only use these techniques after you’ve already built rapport with a girl. The power of this simple strategy will shock you.

Eye contact can trigger attraction on its own. Famed evolutionary psychologist David Buss writes in his book, Why Women Have Sex, “In one study, forty-eight women and men came to a lab and were asked to stare into each other’s eyes while talking. The effect of mutual gaze proved powerful. Many reported that deep eye contact with an opposite-sex stranger created feelings of intense love. Another study had strangers first reveal intimate details of their lives to each other for half an hour, and then asked them to stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes— without breaking eye contact or making any conversation. Participants again reported deep attraction to their study partners. Two of these total strangers even ended up getting married!”

Eye contact is powerful, but how do you improve it? Whenever you are in a location with women, improve your eye contact with this simple game. Whenever you see a woman, look at her eyes, if she doesn’t look at you, avert your gaze after 3 seconds, if she does look at you, hold eye contact until she looks away from you.

Over time, this simple technique will lead you to make powerful eye contact effortlessly in all of your interactions with women. Your ability to create attraction will be significantly magnified.

Like intent, mystery can be a vague, hard-to-understand concept. In high school I learned that it was attractive to be mysterious, and I heard that to be mysterious meant not to talk much. So, to become mysterious, I just didn’t talk to girls. Maybe this did cause me to create an aura of mystery, but I was missing the point.

To be mysterious, you simply have to make a woman curious about you, you have to leave her with unanswered questions. Mystery is attractive because it shows that you have depth, and women get bored of the constant barrage of uninteresting, simple, guys that try to get in their pants. Show that you are different, offer her some mystery, and you will trigger attraction.

How can you do this without learning complicated routines? Say one line that she won’t be able to get out of her head. Tell her something she doesn’t usually hear, something provocative, something that will make her wonder about you.

My personal favorite line to accomplish this?

“I bet you don’t meet a guy like me every day.”

This line has an insidious effect. It proves itself true, very few men would say something so cocky, and simply saying this line proves that you are different from other guys, because other guys don’t talk like that.

This line creates mystery, because she will wonder exactly what it is that makes you different? She will want to know why you would say something like that, she will want to know why you have so much self-confidence. She’s going to want to solve this mystery, and the only way to do so, is to spend more time with you.